Wedding Planning Guide Secrets!!...
"Imagine if This Happened on YOUR Wedding Day!"
Dear Friend,
As you are hopefully well aware, planning a wedding is a huge task. It can be fun, but also very stressful.
You may have heard from friends and relatives not to worry about what goes wrong on your special day because inevitably there will be the odd blunder.
But does that really fill you with the confidence you need and reduce your wedding stress?
Personally I haven't seen too many weddings where there are massive disasters (I've seen a couple, but not many), but I have heard of dozens of weddings where they just didn't go as well as they had hoped.
Remember: You only get 1 shot at this! (well at least I hope that is your plan!)
Any number of things can happen and they aren't necessarily major, but good planning can alleviate all the stress of worrying about what might go wrong and allow you to enjoy your special day. Here's a few examples of disappointing things that have happened at weddings...
I remember one wedding where the bride asked the camera men to film her walking into the church. So they filmed her from the doorway from behind. She wanted to be filmed from the front!
That same wedding they ordered some throw-away cameras about 1 month before the wedding, and they didn't arrive! They wanted to have these on the tables, and they ended up having to buy some from the shop for expensive prices at the last minute. Problem solved, but oh what stress!
A friend of my husband got married 2 years ago, and at his wedding he found after when looking at the wedding photos that he hadn't got 1 single photo with his mother. What a shame for him and for her.
And unfortunate it's so easy for any one of hundreds of minor things to crop up. How can you ensure that you have a perfect wedding day that you can enjoy and look back on with eternal happiness?
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I'm sure there are many specific questions you may have about planning a wedding that you may not have the answers to, such as...
How to tell your parents you want to plan your own wedding.
Paying for the wedding... who pays for what?
What happens to traditions when you have divorced/remarried parents?
How much should you tip the wedding minister?
How should you word your wedding invitations, service booklets and thank you cards?
What to do about cultural differences.
How do you ask family members for contributions towards your wedding?
What to do about child care during a wedding?
What is first dance etiquette?
How do you let an unfashionable wedding guest know how to dress?
How many wedding gift registries should you have?
Which children should you invite to the wedding?
How can you include multiple parents/relatives in the wedding ceremony?
Which co-workers should you invite to your wedding?
Can a girl be the ringbearer? (Yes I've had a few people ask me that one)
How to set the ideal date for your wedding.
Wedding etiquette for a pregnant bride.
Who pays for bridesmaids dresses?
Who should you invite to the rehearsal dinner.
How to avoid wedding crashers?
What to do if you have a wedding date conflict.
Suggestions for who pays in a modern world.
What to do with challenging guests.
What to do if people want to bring dates and you are short on space.
How can you invite people to the wedding tactfully if you don't want to invite their children?
Who should pay for the rehearsal dinner?
What to do about divorced parents who don't get along?
Who should walk you down the aisle if you father has passed away?
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Thursday, 30 April 2009
Monday, 27 April 2009
DEALING WITH INFIDELITY-HOW TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Infidelity can cause tears, anger and heartbreak। It can also lead to separation and divorce. However, dealing with infidelity with the result that it strengthens your relationship is also possible. When one partner cheats, it could be for any one of several reasons. The cheating partner might have been feeling neglected or ignored. There might have been a lack of intimacy in the marriage or an excess of alcohol one night. These things to happen and if you know how to deal with infidelity, there is a chance to work things out rather than throw everything away over one mistake.
The first thing to do is to make sure you know whether your spouse is cheating or not। You might have a "hunch" about it but this isn't proof! Just because your partner doesn't seem interested in you any more is not proof of an affair. He or she might be tired, stressed at work or have another reason for their lack of interest in bed. If your partner is cheating, they will be thinking a lot about the affair, which distracts them. They might keep their cellphone turned off or on mute. A mysterious second cellphone can also be a sign. Your partner might be away from home a lot with a variety of excuses or always "working late" but not actually in the office when you phone. You could ask your partner straight out. Depending on how good they are at lying and how they feel can give the game away too. Some people even admit to an affair if they are questioned directly.
Infidelity can cause tears, anger and heartbreak। It can also lead to separation and divorce. However, dealing with infidelity with the result that it strengthens your relationship is also possible. When one partner cheats, it could be for any one of several reasons. The cheating partner might have been feeling neglected or ignored. There might have been a lack of intimacy in the marriage or an excess of alcohol one night. These things to happen and if you know how to deal with infidelity, there is a chance to work things out rather than throw everything away over one mistake.
The first thing to do is to make sure you know whether your spouse is cheating or not। You might have a "hunch" about it but this isn't proof! Just because your partner doesn't seem interested in you any more is not proof of an affair. He or she might be tired, stressed at work or have another reason for their lack of interest in bed. If your partner is cheating, they will be thinking a lot about the affair, which distracts them. They might keep their cellphone turned off or on mute. A mysterious second cellphone can also be a sign. Your partner might be away from home a lot with a variety of excuses or always "working late" but not actually in the office when you phone. You could ask your partner straight out. Depending on how good they are at lying and how they feel can give the game away too. Some people even admit to an affair if they are questioned directly.
"love":a Word So Much Abused!
Every now and then,u hear someone utters "i love u" to his/her partner and yet at the slightest provocation this expression turns to deep seated hatred,jilting,double-dating and so on .Infact the word love has suffered much abuse.What then is love?We turn to the SOURCE OF LOVE-God Almighty for the characteristcs of love:Love is patient,and love is kind.Love is not jealous,it does not boast,and it is not proud.Love is not rudeLove is not selfishand does love does not become angry easilyLove does not remember wrongs done against it.Love is not happy with evilbut love is happy with the truthLove patiently accepts all thingsLove always trust,always hopes and always continue strongLOVE NEVER ENDS, 1Corithians 13:4-8 (Easy to read version)READ AND MEDITATE ON THE ABOVE DEFINITION;IT'L DO A LOT OF GOOD IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
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Every now and then,u hear someone utters "i love u" to his/her partner and yet at the slightest provocation this expression turns to deep seated hatred,jilting,double-dating and so on .Infact the word love has suffered much abuse.What then is love?We turn to the SOURCE OF LOVE-God Almighty for the characteristcs of love:Love is patient,and love is kind.Love is not jealous,it does not boast,and it is not proud.Love is not rudeLove is not selfishand does love does not become angry easilyLove does not remember wrongs done against it.Love is not happy with evilbut love is happy with the truthLove patiently accepts all thingsLove always trust,always hopes and always continue strongLOVE NEVER ENDS, 1Corithians 13:4-8 (Easy to read version)READ AND MEDITATE ON THE ABOVE DEFINITION;IT'L DO A LOT OF GOOD IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
http://marriageplusrelationships.blogspot.com
Thursday, 23 April 2009
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP:How To Make It Work
Long distance relationships are dreadful. I know this because I'm currently living one. You watch other couples walk down the street hand-in-hand, kissing, etc., everyday and you can't do anything but envy them. So how can a long distance relationship work? How can you keep on loving someone if you can't even see them?
The answer is...it depends on how much you want it to work. True love can overcome any odds thrown in its path if you want it bad enough. So the question is, how do you do it? Well, I do not think that anyone knows exactly how to make it work, but I can certainly provide some points on making it work.
1। COMMUNICATION is the key.
In every relationship, whether near or far, if communication is taken for granted, it can cause the relationship to quiver until it eventually dies a natural death. That's why in any given circumstance, communication has to be given utmost importance. There are so many available media to ensure that the communication stays open. From snail mails and phone calls to chat systems and e-mails or e-cards. These media can be effective means to convey your hearts desires to your loved ones. Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. This will also help you feel close even though you are miles apart.
2। Send off CARE PACKAGES.
It can be anything -- a little gift of flowers; a collection of the letters he has sent you designed artistically into a scrapbook; or your sweetheart's favorite jewelry -- it's really only limited to your imagination. Engaging yourself in this way is beneficial for both of you. You get to concentrate on gathering these items and putting them together, thus keeping your mind off not being together to a certain extent. Your loved one will see how much effort you put into it and how much you care. Even if it is nothing more than a card,it shows they mean enough to you that you can take the time to let them know. It never takes much money to show a little love with a small gift. Trust me, it can melt a heart!
3। Keep yourself BUSY.
You couldn't just sit there and wait 'til he comes back to you. What if he doesn't come back at all and all you did was sit and get your tummy flabby, won't that make you just miserable? You won't just be stunting your growth as an individual in the process but you'd also be developing emotional insecurities. In order to avoid that, you have to focus yourself on other things while waiting. Try to identify your passions. Get in touch with your creative nature. If you are a homebody, you can read tons of books which can help you grow intellectually and emotionally or you can choose to lounge before your computer and surf for hours to learn invaluable things over the internet. It's an endless "ways-to-make-yourself-busy" list and it is up to you to decide whichever you're interested to get involved in. But remember, being "busy" is not an excuse to forget your "special days" and worse yet, your loved one. You're doing it not just to occupy your .elf but also to allow yourself to grow even with your lover's absence.
4। HONESTY is the BEST
The path to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. By being authentic and telling your full truth to your loved one about your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, issues, boundaries, etc., you are gradually building up a zone of confidence and comfort for both of you. This is very essential if you want your relationship to really last. Seeking to avoid conflict and maintain harmony by censoring yourself can work for a while but it won't take much time until your suppressed truth comes out in other ways, such as withdrawal, resentment, "acting out," etc. I know, sometimes, telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table.
5। The value of TRUST
Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. When you trust someone you never have to question their motivation about anything and with mutual trust that relationship is solid. You must learn to be true to the relationship and must never give way to insecurities, strange feelings, suspicions and quick impulses because these will only bring your relationship down. Don't push away negative comments, or advice. Just trust in yourself and your partner. If you two are true to each other and have no hidden motives then you'll be alright. Remember "Love never fails."
6। COMMITMENT is a habit not an achievement
In every relationship, it is a must to be able to learn how to commit and be committed. For most long distance relationships, the very reason why they fail is because both parties couldn't go on with the commitment and they feel too weak to withstand the tribulations of time.If you have committed yourselves to each other without shilly-shallying, then you have a good promise ahead of you.Your comitment to each other will keep the passion alive and the fires burning thus sustaining the growth of the relationship.
7। PATIENCE is a virtue.
Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.
8। WEBCAM
This is applicable only for those who have the comfort of having their own personal computers at home.But for those who don't, there are computers-for-rent in cafe's with webcams already attached to the computer system. Having a webcam is actually very fun and exciting. Even if you aren't together but looking at each other's face in the broad screen makes you feel like you're just so close, so near to your loved one. My boyfriend and I use Yahoo messenger to express our emotions with smileys and it's melting my heart to see him smile in the cam when he gets my messages.
9। Make special occasions SPECIAL.
It is not everyday that a special day comes so when it does, it must be celebrated no matter how far apart you are. When I speak of special occasions, I mean birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, New Year and Valentine's Day. During these occasions, you can plan out some heavy-duty phone call or an extended online time for the evening. Regardless of whether you talk every night or a couple times a week, be sure you both carve out some time for that particular night. If you're too stingy to settle on a lengthy phone call, but have cheap and unlimited online access, plan to send instant messages to each other or meet in a private chatroom somewhere. If you can't be together, at least you can be "talking" and "spending some private moments together".
10। ENJOY LIFE
Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your "life" is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.Anyway, we have our family and friends. What are these social beings surrounding us created for anyway?
Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever! For now, just be happy in knowing that across the miles there is someone who thinks you are so special, they are willing to engage in a terrible thing such as a long distance relationship. Keep in mind that your suffering is not forever since your loved one will be back soon and when that time comes, everything will be much sweeter than it was back then.
Published At: http://www.isnare.com
The answer is...it depends on how much you want it to work. True love can overcome any odds thrown in its path if you want it bad enough. So the question is, how do you do it? Well, I do not think that anyone knows exactly how to make it work, but I can certainly provide some points on making it work.
1। COMMUNICATION is the key.
In every relationship, whether near or far, if communication is taken for granted, it can cause the relationship to quiver until it eventually dies a natural death. That's why in any given circumstance, communication has to be given utmost importance. There are so many available media to ensure that the communication stays open. From snail mails and phone calls to chat systems and e-mails or e-cards. These media can be effective means to convey your hearts desires to your loved ones. Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. This will also help you feel close even though you are miles apart.
2। Send off CARE PACKAGES.
It can be anything -- a little gift of flowers; a collection of the letters he has sent you designed artistically into a scrapbook; or your sweetheart's favorite jewelry -- it's really only limited to your imagination. Engaging yourself in this way is beneficial for both of you. You get to concentrate on gathering these items and putting them together, thus keeping your mind off not being together to a certain extent. Your loved one will see how much effort you put into it and how much you care. Even if it is nothing more than a card,it shows they mean enough to you that you can take the time to let them know. It never takes much money to show a little love with a small gift. Trust me, it can melt a heart!
3। Keep yourself BUSY.
You couldn't just sit there and wait 'til he comes back to you. What if he doesn't come back at all and all you did was sit and get your tummy flabby, won't that make you just miserable? You won't just be stunting your growth as an individual in the process but you'd also be developing emotional insecurities. In order to avoid that, you have to focus yourself on other things while waiting. Try to identify your passions. Get in touch with your creative nature. If you are a homebody, you can read tons of books which can help you grow intellectually and emotionally or you can choose to lounge before your computer and surf for hours to learn invaluable things over the internet. It's an endless "ways-to-make-yourself-busy" list and it is up to you to decide whichever you're interested to get involved in. But remember, being "busy" is not an excuse to forget your "special days" and worse yet, your loved one. You're doing it not just to occupy your .elf but also to allow yourself to grow even with your lover's absence.
4। HONESTY is the BEST
The path to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. By being authentic and telling your full truth to your loved one about your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, issues, boundaries, etc., you are gradually building up a zone of confidence and comfort for both of you. This is very essential if you want your relationship to really last. Seeking to avoid conflict and maintain harmony by censoring yourself can work for a while but it won't take much time until your suppressed truth comes out in other ways, such as withdrawal, resentment, "acting out," etc. I know, sometimes, telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table.
5। The value of TRUST
Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. When you trust someone you never have to question their motivation about anything and with mutual trust that relationship is solid. You must learn to be true to the relationship and must never give way to insecurities, strange feelings, suspicions and quick impulses because these will only bring your relationship down. Don't push away negative comments, or advice. Just trust in yourself and your partner. If you two are true to each other and have no hidden motives then you'll be alright. Remember "Love never fails."
6। COMMITMENT is a habit not an achievement
In every relationship, it is a must to be able to learn how to commit and be committed. For most long distance relationships, the very reason why they fail is because both parties couldn't go on with the commitment and they feel too weak to withstand the tribulations of time.If you have committed yourselves to each other without shilly-shallying, then you have a good promise ahead of you.Your comitment to each other will keep the passion alive and the fires burning thus sustaining the growth of the relationship.
7। PATIENCE is a virtue.
Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.
8। WEBCAM
This is applicable only for those who have the comfort of having their own personal computers at home.But for those who don't, there are computers-for-rent in cafe's with webcams already attached to the computer system. Having a webcam is actually very fun and exciting. Even if you aren't together but looking at each other's face in the broad screen makes you feel like you're just so close, so near to your loved one. My boyfriend and I use Yahoo messenger to express our emotions with smileys and it's melting my heart to see him smile in the cam when he gets my messages.
9। Make special occasions SPECIAL.
It is not everyday that a special day comes so when it does, it must be celebrated no matter how far apart you are. When I speak of special occasions, I mean birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, New Year and Valentine's Day. During these occasions, you can plan out some heavy-duty phone call or an extended online time for the evening. Regardless of whether you talk every night or a couple times a week, be sure you both carve out some time for that particular night. If you're too stingy to settle on a lengthy phone call, but have cheap and unlimited online access, plan to send instant messages to each other or meet in a private chatroom somewhere. If you can't be together, at least you can be "talking" and "spending some private moments together".
10। ENJOY LIFE
Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your "life" is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.Anyway, we have our family and friends. What are these social beings surrounding us created for anyway?
Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever! For now, just be happy in knowing that across the miles there is someone who thinks you are so special, they are willing to engage in a terrible thing such as a long distance relationship. Keep in mind that your suffering is not forever since your loved one will be back soon and when that time comes, everything will be much sweeter than it was back then.
Published At: http://www.isnare.com
Wednesday, 22 April 2009
JEALOUSY PROBLEMS:DOES IT DESTROY LOVE?
The answer to that question is that yes, literally jealousy can destroy love in a relationship। This applies to both the jealous person and the victim of the jealousy as this destructive emotion has the power to damage and break up a relationship। Insecurity is the root of jealous feelings and these feelings can be very addictive as well as full of powerful, raw emotions।
Jealousy problems frequently happen to two people in a relationship। And if the issue is not addressed early on in the relationship, typical control issues and problems may start when accusations based on real or imagined suspicious behavior by the other partner. These worries blossom could blossom into an obsessive type of jealousy that creates problems with both partners if the issues are not addressed right away.
When there is the threat of losing a loved one many people let go of rational thought and dive deep into very powerful emotions they can’t always control। These emotions are extreme anger, fear of losing control, and unhealed pain from past losses. Some of it is also learned behavior experienced while growing up with family such as parents or relatives. Whatever the case may be, these untamed emotions hurt and frighten both the jealous person and the person that is the victim of the jealousy.
The negative association to jealousy is that it hurts and destroys the love between two people in relationship। Most people in a committed relationship love each other and do not want to destroy that special bond and love between each other. Remember: jealousy is not proof that a relationship is built on love. The addictive feeling can literally take over a relationship so that one of the partners begins to lose love and desire for the other partner. There is nothing positive and no good can come from angry, controlling behavior except that in the long run, both partners will eventually break up as a result---if the jealousy problems are not addressed.
When you think that your partner has gone overboard in accusations that seem overly suspicious or paranoid, it’s time the you seek professional help। It’s common that the jealous person may focus on being over possessive that has paranoid and suspicious accusations that going along with it. If your partner will not go, then you should make an appointment for yourself first. An experienced counselor or psychologist that deal with relationships will be able to help you. As a prospective client, interview the counselor first—if they do not seem to have a good grasp of your situation, keep trying to find someone else you can resonate with.
Many average relationships will experience some healthy insecurity and anxiety issues that is normal and typical of most relationships। Once these insecurity issues cross the line with uncalled for accusations, uncontrolled emotion, and constant scrutiny of your activities---then you probably have a problem. If your partner is overly concerned with you by constant phone calls, emails, or texting, then you have reason to be concerned. And if a partner turns into a more violent and accusing person that is obsessed with controlling the other partner, then there is another more serious problem that needs to be addressed.
If you are an overly possessive person who has jealousy issues, realize that jealousy has the power to destroy love---it has that strong potential to break up couples। Realize that if you want to keep your partner, you must take charge of your emotions. This is what may help save your relationship if you take control of your emotions. This also means make an appointment with a professional about your concerns and worries, and bring your partner with you if you wish. But take action to get control of the situation by promising your partner that you are willing to do what it takes to change your behavior. And take action to do it. If you love your partner, you will try to save your relationship.
If you are experiencing a jealous partner, let them know that trust and confidence in your love for each other is important to you. Tell them that to you, this is what love really is---not angry controlling behavior. If you still want to save the relationship, your main goal mutually is to make the relationship more secure, committed with trust and hope that you both can share together.
Published At: http://www.isnare.com
Jealousy problems frequently happen to two people in a relationship। And if the issue is not addressed early on in the relationship, typical control issues and problems may start when accusations based on real or imagined suspicious behavior by the other partner. These worries blossom could blossom into an obsessive type of jealousy that creates problems with both partners if the issues are not addressed right away.
When there is the threat of losing a loved one many people let go of rational thought and dive deep into very powerful emotions they can’t always control। These emotions are extreme anger, fear of losing control, and unhealed pain from past losses. Some of it is also learned behavior experienced while growing up with family such as parents or relatives. Whatever the case may be, these untamed emotions hurt and frighten both the jealous person and the person that is the victim of the jealousy.
The negative association to jealousy is that it hurts and destroys the love between two people in relationship। Most people in a committed relationship love each other and do not want to destroy that special bond and love between each other. Remember: jealousy is not proof that a relationship is built on love. The addictive feeling can literally take over a relationship so that one of the partners begins to lose love and desire for the other partner. There is nothing positive and no good can come from angry, controlling behavior except that in the long run, both partners will eventually break up as a result---if the jealousy problems are not addressed.
When you think that your partner has gone overboard in accusations that seem overly suspicious or paranoid, it’s time the you seek professional help। It’s common that the jealous person may focus on being over possessive that has paranoid and suspicious accusations that going along with it. If your partner will not go, then you should make an appointment for yourself first. An experienced counselor or psychologist that deal with relationships will be able to help you. As a prospective client, interview the counselor first—if they do not seem to have a good grasp of your situation, keep trying to find someone else you can resonate with.
Many average relationships will experience some healthy insecurity and anxiety issues that is normal and typical of most relationships। Once these insecurity issues cross the line with uncalled for accusations, uncontrolled emotion, and constant scrutiny of your activities---then you probably have a problem. If your partner is overly concerned with you by constant phone calls, emails, or texting, then you have reason to be concerned. And if a partner turns into a more violent and accusing person that is obsessed with controlling the other partner, then there is another more serious problem that needs to be addressed.
If you are an overly possessive person who has jealousy issues, realize that jealousy has the power to destroy love---it has that strong potential to break up couples। Realize that if you want to keep your partner, you must take charge of your emotions. This is what may help save your relationship if you take control of your emotions. This also means make an appointment with a professional about your concerns and worries, and bring your partner with you if you wish. But take action to get control of the situation by promising your partner that you are willing to do what it takes to change your behavior. And take action to do it. If you love your partner, you will try to save your relationship.
If you are experiencing a jealous partner, let them know that trust and confidence in your love for each other is important to you. Tell them that to you, this is what love really is---not angry controlling behavior. If you still want to save the relationship, your main goal mutually is to make the relationship more secure, committed with trust and hope that you both can share together.
Published At: http://www.isnare.com
Tuesday, 21 April 2009
The Seven Most Important Tips To Rescue Your Relationship
A relationship is something you have to nurture. Sometimes all of us make the mistake of taking our partner for granted or our partner starts taking us for granted. Now we are in trouble, our relationship is heading for disaster. If you are there and you are in dire need of some tips to rescue your relationship, I have the top seven most important ones for you.
1. Stop arguing:
You have to give yourself time to calm down and to stop arguing. If you are upset and emotional you will not be able to take the steps you need to take to rescue your relationship.
2. Stop accusing your partner:
This is also very important. Maybe it is part of the “stop arguing” but as it is so important I make it a separate point. As long as you keep accusing your partner of whatever, you will not be able to rescue your relationship! Please, just bite your tongue, if you have to. If you want to save it, you have to stop!
3. Try and observe what is really going on:
Try and really get behind everything that is going on. What are the real reasons you are having problems. Sometimes the things we argue about are not the real problem. The arguing is often only a symptom of something deeper that is wrong. By staying calm and really observing what is happening, you may just find out what it is. Take special note of what it may be that you are doing. Sometimes we are the real problem without really knowing it.
4. Start with yourself:
This is very important. First of all you have to start correcting all the things you are responsible for. If your work schedule is the reason you are drifting apart, you have to try and come up with a solutions that will give you more time together. If you are neglecting your partner because you are spending too much time with your friends, try and come up with a plan how you can spend time with your friends, but still spend more time with your partner.
Make a plan, whatever it is you can do, do it first before you expect your partner to do anything. You have to show your partner that you are committed to it and are willing to make sacrifices to rescue your relationship.
5. Show your love:
The next step is to show your love without smothering your partner. Do the little things you know your partner loves. Make your partner feel special all over again. What is it that drew you together in the first place? How did you behave? What were the little things you used to do to make your partner feel special? Things like that. Rekindle the loving care there used to be.
6. Make as many opportunities as possible for the two of you to do things together that you both love:
Spending time with each other, doing the things you love, is the best way to start the process to rescue your relationship! Having fun together will put you both in a good mood. It will also show you once again why you are a couple in the first place, what the magic between the two of you were all about. This is a very important part of saving it, get the fun back.
7. Now you can discuss the problems:
Only once you are calm and you and your partner are able to spend some fun time together again can you discuss the problems with your partner. This is where you have to come up with the plans that will prevent you from going off the rails again. Make plans to take specific measures that will help. Be realistic! Do not expect too much from your partner. Keep the realities of life in mind and work around it. It is important not to try and accomplish the impossible, it will not work and then you are back at square one!
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1. Stop arguing:
You have to give yourself time to calm down and to stop arguing. If you are upset and emotional you will not be able to take the steps you need to take to rescue your relationship.
2. Stop accusing your partner:
This is also very important. Maybe it is part of the “stop arguing” but as it is so important I make it a separate point. As long as you keep accusing your partner of whatever, you will not be able to rescue your relationship! Please, just bite your tongue, if you have to. If you want to save it, you have to stop!
3. Try and observe what is really going on:
Try and really get behind everything that is going on. What are the real reasons you are having problems. Sometimes the things we argue about are not the real problem. The arguing is often only a symptom of something deeper that is wrong. By staying calm and really observing what is happening, you may just find out what it is. Take special note of what it may be that you are doing. Sometimes we are the real problem without really knowing it.
4. Start with yourself:
This is very important. First of all you have to start correcting all the things you are responsible for. If your work schedule is the reason you are drifting apart, you have to try and come up with a solutions that will give you more time together. If you are neglecting your partner because you are spending too much time with your friends, try and come up with a plan how you can spend time with your friends, but still spend more time with your partner.
Make a plan, whatever it is you can do, do it first before you expect your partner to do anything. You have to show your partner that you are committed to it and are willing to make sacrifices to rescue your relationship.
5. Show your love:
The next step is to show your love without smothering your partner. Do the little things you know your partner loves. Make your partner feel special all over again. What is it that drew you together in the first place? How did you behave? What were the little things you used to do to make your partner feel special? Things like that. Rekindle the loving care there used to be.
6. Make as many opportunities as possible for the two of you to do things together that you both love:
Spending time with each other, doing the things you love, is the best way to start the process to rescue your relationship! Having fun together will put you both in a good mood. It will also show you once again why you are a couple in the first place, what the magic between the two of you were all about. This is a very important part of saving it, get the fun back.
7. Now you can discuss the problems:
Only once you are calm and you and your partner are able to spend some fun time together again can you discuss the problems with your partner. This is where you have to come up with the plans that will prevent you from going off the rails again. Make plans to take specific measures that will help. Be realistic! Do not expect too much from your partner. Keep the realities of life in mind and work around it. It is important not to try and accomplish the impossible, it will not work and then you are back at square one!
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Wednesday, 15 April 2009
FROM VANGUARD NEWSPAPER RELATIONSHIP COLUMN
Torn between my wife and my mistress
Written by Bunmi Sofola
Wednesday, 08 April 2009
Dear Bunmi
,,My friends have the impression that I lead a rather exciting life with a wonderful wife and a beautiful, young lover but the truth is, I have two half-lives! I am 38 and have been married for 12 years to a woman I cherished but who sees me more as a companion than a lover. We have four children - three girls and a boy. We live in our own house as I have a high-profile and well paid job.
My life changed forever about four years ago when I met a young, attractive, intelligent actress who fulfill my every dream। She’s an ambitious 27-year-old and we got on well right from the word go. She is attentive and affectionate, loving, fun in and out of bed. She’s taught me a lot about love-making and we have wild sex most of the time. We also like the same things - music, food and movies - and we truly are soul mates.It was inevitable that my wife got to know about my lover but she hasn’t pressured me to give her up, though secretly, both women want me to ditch the other, but they offer me different things. Staying with my wife means security but the other woman offers me true love. My lover swears she’ll be with me forever and now wants my child but at just 27, who knows how long her love will last? I love them both but can’t make a choice.Osa,
Dear Osa,It must be obvious to you by now that you are at a cross-roads and whichever road you take means leaving something behind। You might toy with the idea of having it all, but then, you might lose it all. You paint a picture of a dull marriage but played a part in creating that too. Your lover now wants a child, but what about the ones you already have who need their father?Before you get carried away by the lust this actress offers, remember she’s professionally trained to play roles and you might not really be certain of what you’d be letting yourself into by fathering her child. You’ve learnt a lot from your actress ‘teacher’ about sex, why don’t you pass some of this to your wife? Who knows, behind what you think is a cool exterior might be a fire waiting to be lit. like most men, you seem to prefer a hum-drum wife and a wild mistress but you just might have both qualities in your wife.
Written by Bunmi Sofola
Wednesday, 08 April 2009
Dear Bunmi
,,My friends have the impression that I lead a rather exciting life with a wonderful wife and a beautiful, young lover but the truth is, I have two half-lives! I am 38 and have been married for 12 years to a woman I cherished but who sees me more as a companion than a lover. We have four children - three girls and a boy. We live in our own house as I have a high-profile and well paid job.
My life changed forever about four years ago when I met a young, attractive, intelligent actress who fulfill my every dream। She’s an ambitious 27-year-old and we got on well right from the word go. She is attentive and affectionate, loving, fun in and out of bed. She’s taught me a lot about love-making and we have wild sex most of the time. We also like the same things - music, food and movies - and we truly are soul mates.It was inevitable that my wife got to know about my lover but she hasn’t pressured me to give her up, though secretly, both women want me to ditch the other, but they offer me different things. Staying with my wife means security but the other woman offers me true love. My lover swears she’ll be with me forever and now wants my child but at just 27, who knows how long her love will last? I love them both but can’t make a choice.Osa,
Dear Osa,It must be obvious to you by now that you are at a cross-roads and whichever road you take means leaving something behind। You might toy with the idea of having it all, but then, you might lose it all. You paint a picture of a dull marriage but played a part in creating that too. Your lover now wants a child, but what about the ones you already have who need their father?Before you get carried away by the lust this actress offers, remember she’s professionally trained to play roles and you might not really be certain of what you’d be letting yourself into by fathering her child. You’ve learnt a lot from your actress ‘teacher’ about sex, why don’t you pass some of this to your wife? Who knows, behind what you think is a cool exterior might be a fire waiting to be lit. like most men, you seem to prefer a hum-drum wife and a wild mistress but you just might have both qualities in your wife.
5 EASY TIPS FOR HAPPY MARRIAGE
Everybody wants a happy marriage. However, nobody seems to want to do what it takes to have one. Most people want to have everything go their way, but that's not realistic and most likely won't happen. Therefore, put these 5 tips to work in your relationship so your marriage can be its best.
1. The first thing you need to do to have a happy marriage is be self-less. It's not easy, but it does work. Selfishness and being self-centered are major causes of an unhappy marriage. If you both put this principle into practice your marriage will be problem free.
2. Showing that you care is another way to have a happy marriage. This helps your partner feel loved and secure. Doing the little things like buying gifts for no reason and giving them attention really does wonders for their self esteem.
3. Learning to make sacrifices helps keep a marriage happy by letting things go that could escalate into an argument. Do you want to have a happy marriage or do you need to be right all the time? Don't allow pride to get in the way, keep the peace.
4. Intimacy is essential for a happy marriage with kisses, hugs, touching, I love you's, hand holding and of course sex. Lack of sex or dull sex can put a huge strain on a marriage.
5. Good communication is a must for marriage to be a happy one, no secrets allowed. Everything should be discussed honestly and openly without fear of being berated.If you put these 5 easy tips into practice everyday you will have a happy marriage. For it to work you both have to be willing it cannot be one-sided.
1. The first thing you need to do to have a happy marriage is be self-less. It's not easy, but it does work. Selfishness and being self-centered are major causes of an unhappy marriage. If you both put this principle into practice your marriage will be problem free.
2. Showing that you care is another way to have a happy marriage. This helps your partner feel loved and secure. Doing the little things like buying gifts for no reason and giving them attention really does wonders for their self esteem.
3. Learning to make sacrifices helps keep a marriage happy by letting things go that could escalate into an argument. Do you want to have a happy marriage or do you need to be right all the time? Don't allow pride to get in the way, keep the peace.
4. Intimacy is essential for a happy marriage with kisses, hugs, touching, I love you's, hand holding and of course sex. Lack of sex or dull sex can put a huge strain on a marriage.
5. Good communication is a must for marriage to be a happy one, no secrets allowed. Everything should be discussed honestly and openly without fear of being berated.If you put these 5 easy tips into practice everyday you will have a happy marriage. For it to work you both have to be willing it cannot be one-sided.
5 EASY TIPS FOR HAPPY MARRIAGE
Everybody wants a happy marriage. However, nobody seems to want to do what it takes to have one. Most people want to have everything go their way, but that's not realistic and most likely won't happen. Therefore, put these 5 tips to work in your relationship so your marriage can be its best.
1. The first thing you need to do to have a happy marriage is be self-less. It's not easy, but it does work. Selfishness and being self-centered are major causes of an unhappy marriage. If you both put this principle into practice your marriage will be problem free.
2. Showing that you care is another way to have a happy marriage. This helps your partner feel loved and secure. Doing the little things like buying gifts for no reason and giving them attention really does wonders for their self esteem.
3. Learning to make sacrifices helps keep a marriage happy by letting things go that could escalate into an argument. Do you want to have a happy marriage or do you need to be right all the time? Don't allow pride to get in the way, keep the peace.
4. Intimacy is essential for a happy marriage with kisses, hugs, touching, I love you's, hand holding and of course sex. Lack of sex or dull sex can put a huge strain on a marriage.
5. Good communication is a must for marriage to be a happy one, no secrets allowed. Everything should be discussed honestly and openly without fear of being berated.If you put these 5 easy tips into practice everyday you will have a happy marriage. For it to work you both have to be willing it cannot be one-sided.
1. The first thing you need to do to have a happy marriage is be self-less. It's not easy, but it does work. Selfishness and being self-centered are major causes of an unhappy marriage. If you both put this principle into practice your marriage will be problem free.
2. Showing that you care is another way to have a happy marriage. This helps your partner feel loved and secure. Doing the little things like buying gifts for no reason and giving them attention really does wonders for their self esteem.
3. Learning to make sacrifices helps keep a marriage happy by letting things go that could escalate into an argument. Do you want to have a happy marriage or do you need to be right all the time? Don't allow pride to get in the way, keep the peace.
4. Intimacy is essential for a happy marriage with kisses, hugs, touching, I love you's, hand holding and of course sex. Lack of sex or dull sex can put a huge strain on a marriage.
5. Good communication is a must for marriage to be a happy one, no secrets allowed. Everything should be discussed honestly and openly without fear of being berated.If you put these 5 easy tips into practice everyday you will have a happy marriage. For it to work you both have to be willing it cannot be one-sided.
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